election recovery

Many see Trump’s win as glorious. Supreme Court spared. Liberal tyranny broken. Non-college-educated white men rose up, again, to save America, flanked by women, blacks, Hispanics, Native Americans, evangelicals, Asians, gays, even college-educated men and women, those fortunate survivors of higher propaganda! Some say the church of Political Correctness has abused us, and that we’re free now to again speak and think as we like, even sing Christmas Carols in public without fear of rebuke!

At the same time, we must admit that Trump and/or Hillary might be the monsters some say they are. We can never know with absolute certainty which set of facts is true. We’re always vulnerable to receiving new information that changes our thinking. But certainly, a lot of hate has bubbled out. We deny our own hate; only see it in others. We blame our hateful feelings on this or that injustice, as though seeing injustice forces us to be hateful. But it’s always a choice. We can argue which side was the greater hater; but winning the argument only bestows the dubious distinction of being the lesser hater. Look, Ma, I’m the lesser hater!

Now, some of us are still heartbroken, election hopes dashed, and stuck in the five stages of loss: denial, anger, grief, bargaining, acceptance. The stages don’t come in order; they occur and recur randomly. It takes time to get over loss. Let’s hope we’re all well soon.

My wife learned this Christian thing: No matter how sad or angry people get, it means they’re in emotional trouble. To be ethical, spiritually correct, and for best results, we should treat troubled people as nice as we can, as nice as pie. My wife makes me do this, too. Okay; she doesn’t make me. I also learned it as a kid. I forgot it growing up. But I re-learned it, that being nice as pie is the healthy adult way. Clinging to anger or damning others personally only hurts us. Karma. To truly care, we’ll say little about another’s loss or bad behavior, and focus instead on positives. We don’t want to grow the mess or the fear, especially now. We need all hands on deck. Huge threats are upon us.

Just one example: radical Islamic terror, what some call Political Islam. All Muslims are our brothers and sisters, of course, but Islam’s holy book, Quran 9:5, says: “And when the forbidden months have passed, kill the idolaters wherever you find them and take them prisoners, and beleaguer them, and lie in wait for them at every place of ambush. But if they repent and observe Prayer and pay the Zakat, then leave their way free.”

History tracks 1500 years of Muslim civil war, and infiltration and invasion by Muslims in Europe, India, etc. Most Muslims aren’t violent jihadis, but this is cold comfort and no protection. Distinguishing peaceful Muslims from murderous jihadis is hard. Making it personal or hateful makes it harder. Sincerely asking for genuine spiritual guidance helps. It makes us kinder and smarter.